Why Reflecting Negativity Backfires: Understanding the Mirror Effect in Conversations
Have you ever had one of those conversations where someone shares a negative perspective or complaint, and in an attempt to support them, you reflect their words back to show understanding—only to have them argue with you as if you originated the negativity? It’s a strange phenomenon, but it happens more often than you might think.
How understanding grows.
I encourage everyone reading this to consider who in your circle of trust has a perspective different from yours. Reach out to them and ask them to share their story. Ask questions that go beyond the surface, especially about topics that might seem difficult or unfamiliar. This isn’t about agreeing with everything but about expanding your understanding.
The memories remain. And the triggers exist.
People ask whether I still think about September 11th. The memories remain. And the triggers exist. And so occasionally I will write about it. I will always think of those who lost their lives simply because they went to work. I will always be grateful to those who lost their lives actively running toward the danger. And I thank God for pulling me through and helping guide my path that day and every day.
My Personal Ten Commandments
Your life will change. Your job will change. Your circle of friends will evolve. But your core values and principles should be consistent. And while you may compromise on compensation, title, which restaurant to dine at or movie to see, there should be certain things about which you refuse to compromise. Here are my updated 10 Commandments.
Connections LIFE Blog: Pride Month Thoughts
This month is Pride Month. Someone you know is gay. Someone you know is a lesbian. Someone you know might be questioning. And all of them are unique individuals with different dreams, different backgrounds, differ perspectives. Just like you are different. Let’s make this a month to learn about each other.
#Leadership: Pick a Struggle. Pick a Side.
Staying in the middle of the road is not good for any players involved. Your leadership will be disappointed. Your peers will notice your lack of Engagement. And you will be unhappy. Pick a Side! This blog was coauthored with Apriel Biggs
What really matters
To be honest, I’m not actually wanting to say goodbye to 2016 as much as I’m saying good riddance. Life matters. Make 2017 EPIC.