Why Reflecting Negativity Backfires: Understanding the Mirror Effect in Conversations
Have you ever had one of those conversations where someone shares a negative perspective or complaint, and in an attempt to support them, you reflect their words back to show understanding—only to have them argue with you as if you originated the negativity? It’s a strange phenomenon, but it happens more often than you might think.
Overcoming Obstacles to Change
Change matters and it will never stop happening. Blanketing everyone that has an issue with change as “resistant” is oversimplified. Instead focus on what is the cause of the reticence. Understanding that might help you find a means to get them on board after all. There are no easy answers but change leaders must be able to preach to the choir and reach the apostates.
Better outcomes through Peer-to-Peer accountability
Problem solving works better when those most directly involved in the solution collaborate and reach an end goal. Involving the boss or requiring any external arbitration slows progress. Holding peers accountable, therefore, is key.
Leadership Through Action
We are the start of the needed change in the world. The more we talk openly and honestly to each other the better off we will be and the more we will contribute to the greater solution. So this is my ask to you.
Leading Change in the Digital Age: Part 2
Leading Change in the Digital Age Part Two: Beware Complacency! Being an early adopter has its perils, but sitting on the sidelines thinking no major action is needed can be the kiss of death for any company navigating disruptive waters In my last blog, I reviewed the magnitude of change swamping commercial real estate and […]
#Leadership: Pick a Struggle. Pick a Side.
Staying in the middle of the road is not good for any players involved. Your leadership will be disappointed. Your peers will notice your lack of Engagement. And you will be unhappy. Pick a Side! This blog was coauthored with Apriel Biggs
Change while times are good
Negativity reduces context. That’s a good reason to consider changes when you’re feeling good about life or work . It will give you more perspective.